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When I was a kid, I love watching Hollywood films. Because of this love of foreign movies, I got attracted to New York buildings, even until now. Whenever the film shoots location in New York city, the NYC buildings spell bounded me with its height, structure and superiority vibe. It felt like a high standing persona looks at you with enormous pride.

The picturesque of NYC got me, not only with its beautiful landmarks and fast-paced life of the New Yorkers but my life’s ambition as well. It was surprising that subconsciously my attraction to the city that never sleeps influenced what I want to do in life, the coming future me.

So, this is now my NYC-influenced-life-dreams; I want to get rich and travel the world.

I need to study hard, get a good grade and look for a high paying job to fulfill these dreams. These are learned from my parent’s advice, friend’s achievement, society’s dictating behavior and tolerating media.

Common ground

Most of our parent’s advice is based from the conditioning of society’s human brain. We should look for a job, work hard 8 hours from Monday to Friday and earn a living from it. These are parents’ common advice to their kids to survive and to achieve their life’s aspirations.

Our friends have a different way of saying things, but the concept is identical “Stick to your job, pay your bills and let’s travel!”. And we are trapped by the notion that, to get what we want in life, we need to have a stable job because job stability gives us financial security and once, we are already financially secured, we can now get what we want in life.

Majority of the people will do the same things; to adhere to the obvious ways of achieving things. Look at your surroundings; people report to their offices to perform the company’s responsibilities and get paid. In this way, they can feed their selves, their family and to spoil their life with the shiny things in this world (not all).

Moreover, the media is the mirror of our society. It is the reflection of society’s wants and needs. The media tells us what the majority wants, and the majority says “Go, follow your dreams. You only live once!”. So, they wrapped strategically the idea called YOLO, market it to the world and we as consumer buy it, without thinking twice.

Consistency is the key

Dreams require hard work, but how can we strengthen the endurance to work hard, if following our dreams designed us to follow what others are doing? Imitating others won’t necessarily help us attain our goals and sometimes doing what others are doing is boring.

Before we set our goals in life, we must first consider this question, “How can I make things possible without dilly-dallying?

In achieving our goals in life, we must be consistent. Consistency includes commitment, self-discipline, patience, and hard-work. The absence of consistency in the process of success creates hurdle which delays the outcome.

So, what if I am doing what others are doing and stay consistent?

There’s nothing wrong being consistent with your current job, but how is your job leads you to your dreams?

Some people let their dreams die. It died because the process of doing it lacks excitement. Dreams are not enough to fuel the drive towards success. The process itself must be interesting for us to keep going. Following our dreams alone will not stand until the end of the journey; if the chosen process are the things, we are not passionate about.

Others achieved their dreams because they discovered their interest earlier on, while others are motivated to reach their dreams even if they don’t like their job. But let us face the fact these are few existing populations in this generation.

Back to the old days

When we were kids, we are excited and filled with enthusiasm. Remember dreaming about flying and touching the clouds? It feels like you can do anything impossible. Just like my NYC dreams when I was a kid. I am excited just the thought of it. Every time I watch a Hollywood film, all I can think of are my dreams waving at me but never the obstacles along the way.

I don’t want my parents, friends, society or the media put my dreams to an end. If only I learned how to focus more on the process than my dreams, I could have accomplished a lot and possibly achieve more than I expect today.